I’ve found myself in a different state of mind the past few months, or the whole year really if I look back. My career is changing which inevitably means that my whole life is changing, even though a career is only a small part of ones life it does influence and affect your life in many ways; on top of that I have an upcoming holiday planned to Italy which I am not prepared for… then there are bills to be paid, a fridge to be filled with groceries and a house that needs cleaning, laundry to be done and so the list goes on! You know what I’m talking about, general life stress. I’ve found that it is really frazzling my nerves out to no end. Constant worrying, struggling to sleep, literally losing my hair, anxiousness, constantly tired and just stressed in every sense of the word. Stress can be paralyzing and doing things within your power to cope is empowering and makes you feel better in the long run.
I have done a bit of reading on how to cope with stress and the basic consensus is that stress is unavoidable, it will always barge into your life uninvited and its easy to let it bully you into feeling helpless but there are many things one can do in order to cope with various stresses. Here is a short guide from me on how I try to cope with everyday stress…
Identify the cause of the stress.
Sometimes when we are stressed our entire existance seems to be one huge stress factor and every corner you look there are different stressors staring you in the face and you end up taking the defensive position which is not the best solution. Stop spinning in stress. Identiy what you are actually stressed about. Is it a specific project at work, an exam, a fight with a friend, dirty dishes or laundry which are piled up? By enabling yourself to learn to identify the main culprit of stress will enable you to feel one small step towards getting organised and taking action.
You cannot control everything.
You will never be able to be in charge of what your in laws say or the sad state of affair that our country is in, you can learn to control how you react, how you accomplish work and how you spend your own time and what you spend your money on. The worst thing to stress about is things beyond your control as this makes you even MORE stressed and makes you feel helpless.
Spend time doing what you love.
If working your passion is not possible then take another approach and think about life. It is much easier when you manage various bundles of stress in between doing activities you love. If this is not possibly all the time make sure you spend time doing the hobbies you are passionate about. If you haven’t found a passion yet spend some time experimenting with different hobbies. Write, paint, sing, dance, go for a walk. The possibilities for finding a passion are endless and don’t give up if you have yet to find yours.
Time management is key.
One of the biggest stresses in my life is what I perceive to be a lack of time to get stuff done. I never wanted to be one of those people who have to schedule everything into a diary but if I didnt, I wouldnt get time to spend with friends or family. Family and friend time to me is one of the biggest and most enjoyable times to have and it makes me sad that I feel like I have to schedule time for it but in order to give my all to these people whom I love so much, I really do have to schedule them in between all the other stuff that needs to get done.
If all else fails, just book yourself into a salon and have a massage to try and destress your body and try even harder to de-stress your mind. Remember, someone busier than you is having a massage right now!!