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WHY VALENTINE’S DAY IS NO EXCUSE TO BE BITTER

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Hiya Poutlings

I had an interesting conversation with one of my recently-single friends last night and we got talking about Valentines Day! She was obviously very bitter about it, but then I think/hope I put some of it into perspective for her. Now, this “holiday” has been thrown way out of perspective. It’s a silly holiday, you don’t need to give into the external pressures of it and you also do not need to be super grumpy about it either.

Case in point: I am in a happy relationship – we don’t really do the Valentines day thing that the media portrays, I would much rather have LOVE expressed every day or on any other day, yes, a silly little chocolate/real (not plastic) flower or something never goes a miss even on Valentines day, however, huge elaborate gifts on Valentines day can be OTT. Even, me, in my relationship have received at least 5 emails daily to tell me to send flowers, send my loved one for a massage, silly stupid gifts ideas, etc. I REALLY DO NOT NEED TO SEND MY BOYFRIEND FLOWERS… but thank you for trying to market that to me.

Valentine’s Day, really should be no different than any other day! Really… In my opinion……however it should never be used for the following:

1. To throw a pity party – YOU may be single and bitter, or coupled and bitter, or divorced and bitter. You have have good reason to be terribly, terribly bitter about love. I am not taking that away from you. But Valentine’s Day does not give you carte blanche to feel sorry for yourself. You do not get to sulk. Or be mean to your co-worker because they got a flower delivery. Or be a general pitiful piece of shit all day because you are not getting any flowers.

2. To contact your ex – I urge you NOT to contact any form of your exes on Valentine’s Day. Due to the external pressure I mentioned earlier, it’s heavy pressure. I’m not saying you should never contact your ex, but if you really want to, sleep on it for a whole week and contact them on 21st of February, when all the chocolate is on sale.

3. To go on an emotional bender – You might be feeling lonely, or reflecting on why you do not have romantic love in your life, or possibly even mourning a love that was lost. That is perfectly fine and normal. Do not let it get you down a rabbit hole of catastrophic thinking. You start with IT WOULD OF BEEN REALLY NICE TO GET FLOWERS and before you know it you’re at WHO’S GOING TO BE THERE FOR ME HOLDING MY HAND WHEN I DIE? Come on, now. No need to spiral out of control, indulging in feeling lonely on Valentine’s Day never really leads anywhere productive. Instead, challenge yourself to think more productive thoughts like WHAT ARE SOME THINGS I CAN DO TO BE MORE OPEN TO LOVE IN MY LIFE THIS YEAR? or LET ME REMIND MYSELF WHY THE EX AND I DIDN’T WORK OUT.

4. To test the person you are dating – Valentine’s Day is not a test to see how much the person you’re dating cares about you. There is no report at the end of the night. If there’s something you want to do celebrate, don’t wait for someone else to plan it. The people we date aren’t waiting around all year to make our magical Valentine’s Day fantasies happen.

5. To DEMAND an expensive gift – If the person you’re dating has the funds to buy you an opulent gift, like any of the gifts Sandylashxx mentioned in her last post, and happens to do so from the bottom of his/her heart, then consider yourself EXTREMELY lucky. If the person you are dating does not have the funds to buy you a mini pony wiht a diamond collar, so what? It doesn’t mean they love you any less. Don’t be that person who makes the holiday about all material gain. And please, dear God, don’t use Valentine’s Day as an excuse to push for an engagement ring, unless the time really is right for you two.

6. To internet stalk – Getting on Facebook/Twitter/Google and looking at pictures of your ex(es) and his or her new love is always a bad idea in my opinion… but if this is an activity that you’re not ready to give up, fine. Just abstain for 24 hours.

7. to sign up to an online dating site – PLEASE by all means, feel free to sign up for online dating. But do not do it the week of Valentine’s day. No need to get desperate, looking for a date, any date come February 11th.

Moral of the story: we all need to learn that being alone is NOT  bad thing. It’s a thing that everyone needs to learn to do at one point or another in life. If that doesn’t motivate you, remember that there is no lonlier feeling than spending Valentine’s Day with someone you don’t care for.

*missfitz

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Vogue has Upset Multiple Women Rights Groups…

Domestic violence and women rights groups are up in arms over this latest cover of Vogue Hommes International, which they say provides a “disturbing image of glorifying violence against women as an act of love.”

Hi once again, Poutlings…

Four organazation leaders are so horrified by the cover which feautres Stephanie Seymour being apparently choked model Marlon Teixeira, that they have written to Conde Nast, the head honcho Si Newhouse and editiorial director Thomas Wallacedemanding the cover be yanked from New York news stands.

The four groups consisting of Sanctuary for Families, Safe Horizon, Equality Now and the New York Chapter wrote:

“Choking is not a fashion statement, and certainly not something that should be used to sell magazines.”

Do you think it should be pulled from the shelves? And should fashion editors be more careful about the social awareness of images they believe are artsy, but are actually sending out a damaging message to women everywhere?

**missfitzz

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Mixed Feelings About Kim in V Magazine…..

Hiya Poutlings!

As much as I have in the past always disregarded everything Kim Krapdashian, as we fondly call her around here has done, lets be honest here, we simply just call a spade a spade, right? Well, I must also give credit where it is due, as Kim is appearing in V Magazine for the fall’s travel edition 2012 and here are some of the shots…. Which I believe are absolutely beautiful, sans the god damn fur!!

PFFT to her for being a fur wearing whore.

Do I think  Kim K is a great model, no. Look at these shots, even though they are photographed perfectly BUT she has the exact same expression throughout, sometimes opening her eyes and sometimes closing them. That must take skill… not. Even with that being said, these pictures are eerily emotive, and I do like them. Oh my god, I cannot believe I like something that is in some way related to a Krapdashian.

Photographed by the ever talented Nick Knight in London, the photo spread includes Kim wearing Tom Ford, Giorgio Armani and of course Kanye West.

Kim K in Kanye West… does this dress not look similiar to the one that Beyonce wore to the Met Gala…? Just saying

Kim K in Tom Ford

Kim K covered by a veil in Giorgio Armani

What do you think?

**missfitzz

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Lindsay Lohan has done it again, and creeped me out…

Heya Pouters

Lindsay Lohan, has done a really interesting photoshoot, just to clarify by interesting, I do not mean that it is a “wow, awesome” sort of photoshoot, rather a “wow, this is really effing weird and kind of sad and it makes me feel uncomfortable kind of photoshoot“.

In her latest photoshoot with Terry Richardson, we get to see Lindsay loading a gun, holding it to her head, holding it under her chin, and putting it in her mouth, all while looking like she is going to burst into tears. We also get to see her smoking a lot, what’s new, and posing in various minimal clothing but I feel like the gun in the images is supposed to be focus here, so much that Terry Richardson removed them from his site. His choice of model for this is a good idea, bearing in mind how much of troubled soul Lindsay Lohan is, and these images bear a constant reminder that she is so troubled.

I don’t even know what to think… These images just feel so creepy and incredibly wrong to me, almost a mockery of the suicide part. I get that there is something “artistic” in death, but for the purpose of this post, more so suicide and hence why so many people try to portray it in various ways be it painting, songs, drawings, sadly photo shoots that are always poorly pulled off.

Just like these images, I don’t see much ART going on here, and yes, don’t get me started, art is supposed to provoke an emotion and make people think twice, I am aware of this, I know it all too well, however – I do not see how the way these images have been posed and/or captured artistically apart from Linday portraying SOME emotion in a few shots, apart from that, they just look cheap to me. So, maybe it is art, as its caused me to write an entire blog about them, but I just do not see it as art, or even remotely artistic.

Dont even get me started on this image above. But really, if I have to see Lindsay Lohan modelling, I’d at least like to see her doing something a little more fashionable, or artistic than hanging out of a hotel room with a gun in her hand… or is that just me?

**missfitzz

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Models : Posing

Hiyaaaaa Poutlings!!

Thunderous Thursday?

I’m praying for a thunderstorm its so hot on the highveld –  so everyone strip those tops and bras off and lets go do an Topless African Rain Dance – we may even cause a car accident or something to make today that much more interesting! Today, I’m going to talk about something I’m terrible at but tell people often what and how to do it. Does that make me a hypocrit? No! That makes me a behind the scenes kinda person, as a photographer and even a makeup artist at shoots everyone gets to the point where they have flat fresh run out of ideas of how to pose the model. Here are a few of the things I tell people alot…

When preparing for your photoshoot as a model, there are numerous steps you can take to ensure you are comfortable while posing and your end result will look more natural. Mostly, this comes from experience in front of the photographer’s camera. The more you practice and set up photo shoots, the more your posing will appear as if you just strolled across the photographer just looking that fabulous as you always bloody do. Duh! You are a model after all.

Before you head to your photo shoot, pick at least ten poses that you really like from fashion or glamour magazines, or poses you’ve learned from previous photo shoots. Take time to practice each pose in front of a mirror until you feel comfortable and have the confidence of knowing you look great doing these poses.

Also, focus on what to do with your hands and pay attention to facial expressions. A pose is virtually dead and unimaginative without a “look”. You should be able to close your eyes, imagine a thought, open your eyes and sell that thought. Practice this technique and your photos will come alive.

So enough of the admin, and lets get onto fun stuff – awkward poses! Below is my choice of 20 awkard and BAD model poses and these pictures should of never made it on the internet, ahem photographers – although I did wonder how these models got themselves in some of these poses!

I do admire this model for being incredibly flexible but feck! That just doesn’t look normal…. Models/potential models – do not try this pose at home! You may get yourself into a knot….

Where to start with these two. On the right: This woman is stepping out of her shoe, and looks incredibly bored/tired/simpy awkward! If her back leg was straight this may have worked but probably not!! On the left: this model just looks like she needs to pee, badly and if she opens those legs she is going to leave a large puddle on the floor. Models, please ensure you pee before your photoshoot!!!

“Excuse me, WTF are you doing? I’m about to run a race against Hussain Bolt” said the mode. I have no words, really. Just don’t do that again please Mr….

The only way this shot would be awesome would be to photoshop the chair out and make the model into a Powerpuff Girl fighting someone evil, otherwise its just a terrible picture.

GYMNASTICS! Oh no, its a model, posing with a guitar doing the splits – because thats what people always do with guitars, correct? Ehhh…. ok then!

Models hear it all the time, “arch your back, you’ll be stiff tomorrow….” This however this is something else…. This makes my back and legs sore just looking at it…. Ouch. Next!!

Shame, poor model looks terrified, looks like something out of a horror movie, I just keep on wondering if the giant spider is going to eat him or not….

This dress is so stiff, the poor model can barely move!!

At first glance I liked this picture, but look at the model, she ain’t loving life!

another model that needs the bathroom! Whats up with them?

Not only does her facial expression make her look like a deer in the headlights, I don’t think she knows what she is doing either…

WTF again!

Don’t we all do this and lay ourselves down over kiddies tables and use the floor as a pillow?

I can’t perceive what she was trying to convey here, but whatever it was, it failed unless she wanted to look like she had a stick up her backside… just saying.

Left: Yes lady, we all know how male dogs pee. This is an incredibly flattering picture of this model. Right: I think she’s gonna come and kill me in the middle of the night with that glare…. Why is everybody always so bloody serious??

Remeber to always pose with poise and grace! If not, you may look like some of the above mentioned posing mess ups.

Don’t forget to do the rain dance!

missfitzzz**

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