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Lady Laws

In honour of Woman’s Day tomorrow…. There are certain things, I believe in life that us girls need to learn in order to be acknowledged as a full on lady, in a true sense of the word. I am calling these the Lady Laws and I believe we need to learn and master these things and you will be on your way to being the best women you can be….

ComplimentTaking a compliment.

“You look absolutely amazing”. Yes, you do. You spent hours doing your hair and makeup (sometimes even weeks when you’ve been training your butt off at the gym) to look exactly how you look right now. Someone has acknowledged it. Embrace the compliement, think of it as a gift of kindess. Do not and I reapeat DO NOT throw a compliment away when one is given to you. Yes, you might be taken aback and flattered but a simple “thank you” with a smile is a great response. Do not point out another weakness in response to this as it ends up looking like you want your own pity party, and only girls have pity parties – not ladies. Be gracious about it though in the same regard and don’t get a big head about it.

Self DefenseHow to defend yourself.

We live in a scary world. Not just a scary country. There is a high chance that 1 in 4 women has a chance of experiencing a violent crime in her lifetime. Studies have shown that it is virtually always better to fight back in situations as women who have done in studies have always eneded up being less injured than those who didn’t. I’m not suggesting a black belt in karate but a good knowledge of how to defend yourself against a potentially nasty situation will only empower you in life.

Breast Cancer CheckLearning to check your body.

One in nine women will get breast cancer at some point in their lives and early diagnosis is vital for a good recovery. This means, it is ideal to check your own boobies once a month. They are your breasts and no one elses. Its really simple and can be done when you are in the bath or shower. You need to be aware of what is normal for you in look and feel, what changes to loook for and report any changes to your doctor without delay and ensure to go for a mamogram once year once you reach the age of 35 or earlier if you have concerns.

Walking AwayWalking Away From Bad Friendships and/or Relationships

There are so many people in the world that can be toxic for you, both platonically and romantically. If you ever feel as though you are trapped, undermined, anxious, in danger or unhappy around certain people, learn the art of letting them go from your life in order for you to be free. Surrounding yourself with a support group of compassionate loving family and friends will help you see yourself for exactly what you’re worth in life. Do not compromise that for anyone. Continue reading

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The Stress Factor


GOOD MORNING STRESSI’ve found myself in a different state of mind the past few months, or the whole year really if I look back. My career is changing which inevitably means that my whole life is changing, even though a career is only a small part of ones life it does influence and affect your life in many ways; on top of that I have an upcoming holiday planned to Italy which I am not prepared for… then there are bills to be paid, a fridge to be filled with groceries and a house that needs cleaning, laundry to be done and so the list goes on! You know what I’m talking about, general life stress. I’ve found that it is really frazzling my nerves out to no end. Constant worrying, struggling to sleep, literally losing my hair, anxiousness, constantly tired and just stressed in every sense of the word. Stress can be paralyzing and doing things within your power to cope is empowering and makes you feel better in the long run.

I have done a bit of reading on how to cope with stress and the basic consensus is that stress is unavoidable, it will always barge into your life uninvited and its easy to let it bully you into feeling helpless but there are many things one can do in order to cope with various stresses. Here is a short guide from me on how I try to cope with everyday stress…

Identify the cause of the stress.STRESS

Sometimes when we are stressed our entire existance seems to be one huge stress factor and every corner you look there are different stressors staring you in the face and you end up taking the defensive position which is not the best solution. Stop spinning in stress. Identiy what you are actually stressed about. Is it a specific project at work, an exam, a fight with a friend, dirty dishes or laundry which are piled up? By enabling yourself to learn to identify the main culprit of stress will enable you to feel one small step towards getting organised and taking action.

You cannot control everything.

You will never be able to be in charge of what your in laws say or the sad state of affair that our country is in, you can learn to control how you react, how you accomplish work and how you spend your own time and what you spend your money on. The worst thing to stress about is things beyond your control as this makes you even MORE stressed and makes you feel helpless.

Spend time doing what you love.

If working your passion is not possible then take another approach and think about life. It is much easier when you manage various bundles of stress in between doing activities you love. If this is not possibly all the time make sure you spend time doing the hobbies you are passionate about. If you haven’t found a passion yet spend some time experimenting with different hobbies. Write, paint, sing, dance, go for a walk. The possibilities for finding a passion are endless and don’t give up if you have yet to find yours.

Time management is key.

One of the biggest stresses in my life is what I perceive to be a lack of time to get stuff done. I never wanted to be one of those people who have to schedule everything into a diary but if I didnt, I wouldnt get time to spend with friends or family. Family and friend time to me is one of the biggest and most enjoyable times to have and it makes me sad that I feel like I have to schedule time for it but in order to give my all to these people whom I love so much, I really do have to schedule them in between all the other stuff that needs to get done.

If all else fails, just book yourself into a salon and have a massage to try and destress your body and try even harder to de-stress your mind. Remember, someone busier than you is having a massage right now!!

x flea143


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Life Comparasions

Life 01We all know how dangerous it is to wander down the paths of comparing yourself to others because we often compare the wrong things. Social media only helps to increase this unfortunate unwanted comparison. Learning to realise first and foremost that it is impossible to determine who is living a more valuable life by comparing clothes, cars, homes, salaries, beauty or Twitter and Instagram followers. Net worth, numbers and material items essentially mean nothing in the grand scheme of life and because its social media remember there are always 100 different angles to view what you are interpreting as the something to be envious of.

Life only gets more strange with age. The rate at which people mature around you from being a child through being a so-called adult is always at different rates. We all grow into a unique version of our own selves. Moral values you’re grown up to learn from your parents and those around you are always different due to backgrounds, circumstances and willpower. People have different views, different visions and different beliefs and you often will find yourself comparing your situation to theirs one too many times. This is dangerous, not only because you’re life is ultimately the only one that matters but this can give you a grass is greener feeling on their side of the fence.

This also does not entitle anyone to brag about what they have, how they got it or how hard they work and compare themselves with an added advantage. Comparing apples and oranges will show a distinctive amount of similarities but also a huge amount of differences. You might both be fruit but having come from different trees, growing under different climates and sprouting at different times is amazing. Celebrate the diversity, don’t brag about it. We are all striving for something. Some don’t know what that is and others have it already figured out already. There is no need to consistently put yourself out there expressing how well you are doing or what amazing stuff you have. There is simply nothing more annoying, nor another way to make everything you brag about questionable. Live for the moment, not for the excessive likes, double taps on Instagram or retweets because ultimately that in itself is rather pathetic.Life 03

Be a good, kind, compassionate human. Be there for your friends when they need to chin up and a gentle kick forward but if they are sad or having a bad day sometimes we all need that. If they are stuck comparing themselves to you or vice versa be sure to stop it immediately. Help each other out. Be your own people. Life 02

Once you start to compare yourself with others it will never end…. you ultimately are the only person that really matters and focussing your time and energy on someone else is putting you and your life development on hold. Focus on the right person, appreciate what you have right now, and focus on how you are going to achieve your goals in the future. At the end of the day, your purpose in life is not to be better than anyone else. It is not to outshine the majority and shine like the sun. The purpose of life is to live, enjoy and be happy with yourself and the only way to do this is to be best possible version of yourself that you can possibly be.

If you are battling with limiting how much you compare yourself with others, try these tips:

  • Limit your time spent on social networking sites which promote the feelings of under-worth rather than self-worth.
  • Remind yourself daily that every person including yourself is unique (no matter how cliché that might sound)
  • Compare yourself to yourself and only yourself. Try to improve it by setting goals and visualising how you will feel once those goals are achieved.
  • Distract yourself by doing things that you like when you find yourself comparing yourself to others.
  • Write down your thoughts.
  • Get with the programme, how significant is your problem compared to even more difficult life situations that people worldwide are suffering with today.
  • If all else fails, take your bestie – go for a coffee, let them give you a hug and then proceed to let them to kick your ass to get your thoughts back on track.

x flea143


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Tips to a more enriching life

Hello pretty Poutlings

It’s been a while (again) since I’ve blogged, so here goes…
A lot of people these days are so depressed and unhappy, it seems like an ongoing rut most of us are stuck in, and sometimes the reasons for this is beyond our control, like the petrol price… But here’s a few tips to hopefully help us all…

1. Be Thankful
Be thankful every day. Say thank you every morning when you wake up. Say thank you for having another day, not another blue Monday, but rather be thankful that you have another day in which you can stand up, see your family and friends and spend time with the ones you love.


2. Learn something new every day
Ignorance is not bliss. In this day and age and with all the technology at our disposal, some people still “victimize” themselves by using the “I didn’t know” or the “I don’t know how” cards. Sorry to break it to you my dears, but this is not a valid excuse anymore. As they say these days, GIYBF! We are quick to learn new things in areas that interest us, but when it comes to work we are quick in throwing our hands up in the air.

If you just learn 1 new thing every day that relates to your work every day, make notes about it and practice it regularly, it will become second nature to you and you won’t struggle with it.


3. Learn a new word every day
We were all little geniuses in childhood, learning hundreds of new words every year and by the ti e we entered first grade, most of us had vocabularies of several thousand words. However, by the age of 11 or 12 we lost some of our enthusiasm for language and the rate at which we picked up new words began to decline significantly. Now we are lucky to pick up even 50 or 60 new words a year.
Languages has so much more to offer that it would be a shame to let our vocabulary-building talents go to waste. So lets re-build some of our youthful brilliance and learn a new word every day.


I hope this gives you all a new light on how to have a little more happiness every day!!

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Mila Kunis Won’t Diet Just Because She’s an Actress

Hiya Poutlings


Sure, it’s pretty stupid for someone who’s already skinny as hell to take a stand against dieting (that’s like me taking a stand for going to bed at 9pm on Fridays – already done!), but Mila Kunis gets a pass because I feel she deserves some recognition and possibly, we could all learn something from her wise words. Let’s not forget, she’s also pretty cool.


“You know, I stay fit, but I dieted for Black Swan. I think it’s OK to do that for the part, but not just for being an actor. Actors [in Hollywood] starve themselves to play thr normal girl – which, for me, is an issue. If someone’s playing a sick person then it’s OK for them to diet for the part. But to diet just to play the love interest or the girl next door, that’s absolutely not OK. You shouldn’t starve yourself; you should be able to live your life.”

I mean, do I neccessarily believe that Mila Kunis doesn’t diet, or at least seriously watch what she eats and works out 4-5 days per week to stay her shape? Not really, but it doesn’t really bother me in her case, mostly because she has a small frame and probably a high metabolism. You know, whatever. As a side note, I hate the tedencies stars have to inisit that they don’t really do much to look as good as they do. I just feel like slapping them in the face and shouting REALLY at them, we all know you spent your first pay cheque on new teeth, hair extensions and a personal trainer. I’m not hating, I’m simply stating that as a standard, MOST “stars” have those privledges as requirement, per se.

I also enjoyed Mila’s chilled persepctive as she expressed her personal philosophy to being grounded in the midst of celebrity life:

“I do take a concious effort to step back and acknowledge where I’m at, and at least appreciate it. I often think to myself, this is great for what it is, but now it’s time to move on. You have to present and stay in the moment or you get completely caught up, and miss so many things. I’ve been doing things for 20 years – I know, crazy – but it’s my career, and while I love what I do, it’s showbiz. It’s grand and it’s wonderful, but it’s not real life. Even though people think its real life.”

I don’t think I know of loads of people (except idiots) who think it’s real life, but I do agree that it’s good to stay present and appreciative regardless of your path in life. Also, since when has Mila Kunis been acting for 20 years? Wow.



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