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Tips on Festive Shopping for Gifts

That time of the year has dawned, yet again – you arrive at a shopping mall and cannot find parking and once you do, you wonder why you didn’t just walk or get dropped off there. Once you’ve hiked your way back to the mall to actually start doing some season shopping everywhere you turn you will see a bunch of teenagers walking around the shops in packs acting like they own the place, excessively large trees decorated to the nines, glimmering with tonnes of glitter. Boney M’s music will be playing very loudly over the intercom system and there will be queues everywhere and you’ll have to find the correct presents and foods to ensure that you and your family have a very happy festive season.images

Nothing is going to make the above problems go in away BUT a good attitude to start off with is not a bad start. If, like myself, you are amazed when you hear people happily cheer that they have ALREADY completed their Christmas shopping and you proceed to panic and make yourself wonder what is wrong with yourself, well just because you haven’t had the time, patience or forethought to do so does not make you a bad person, however it means that you will have limited in order to complete all the tasks in time for Christmas.

The Thinking Stage

First things first, think before you go out. Create a list of people who you need to buy presents for. Write them down, and then think of either items you would like to give as a gift (within your budget of course) or what amount of money you would ideally like to spend on them, and sleep on it, you never when know when divine inspiration hits. Try not to buy useless items as gifts and put some real thought into the gift you are buying the other person. This is actually the hardest part. There is nothing worse than giving or receiving a gift that doesn’t mean anything and it was bought just because it is the socially accepted thing to do. If you’re going to do something, do it properly.

The Planning Stage

Once you have an idea of what you are going to be buying, plan where is the best place to purchase the items you are looking for. The days are gone when you need to hit the shopping malls and search, there is a very handy tool called the internet and more specifically Price Check where you can check where you will get the most bang for your buck. Regardless if you are dirt poor or filthy rich, it’s always worth to get the best offer available rather than throw your money away.

For the items which you have to visit the shopping malls for, try go early in the morning or late at night (a lot of big shopping malls extend their working hours until approximately 10pm at night which is ideal if you have full time commitments).

When planning your shopping sprees, make sure that you can do them as quickly and effectively as possible in order to avoid wasting too much time. Make allowances for coffee breaks.

The Wrapping Stage

Don’t make the same mistake I always do, no matter how hard I try, I always underestimate how strenuous this chore can be. Some presents are just not ‘wrappable’ (I know that is not a word but I am really far too tired to care right now) no matter how hard you try. Rather invest in a lovely little fancy bag which the gift will fit in and save yourself the heartache. Make sure before you start you have the adequate tools of: cello tape, scissors, and wrapping paper; bows and ribbons are nice to haves but not necessary.

Above everything else, try and ENJOY it, it’s a beautiful time of the year where you can reciprocate, in your own way by small gestures and presents for all the support and love you receive from your loved ones during the year. It’s about making other people happy and not holding a grudge about it… and if all else fails just smile, damnit.images

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Hiya Poutlings

I had an interesting conversation with one of my recently-single friends last night and we got talking about Valentines Day! She was obviously very bitter about it, but then I think/hope I put some of it into perspective for her. Now, this “holiday” has been thrown way out of perspective. It’s a silly holiday, you don’t need to give into the external pressures of it and you also do not need to be super grumpy about it either.

Case in point: I am in a happy relationship – we don’t really do the Valentines day thing that the media portrays, I would much rather have LOVE expressed every day or on any other day, yes, a silly little chocolate/real (not plastic) flower or something never goes a miss even on Valentines day, however, huge elaborate gifts on Valentines day can be OTT. Even, me, in my relationship have received at least 5 emails daily to tell me to send flowers, send my loved one for a massage, silly stupid gifts ideas, etc. I REALLY DO NOT NEED TO SEND MY BOYFRIEND FLOWERS… but thank you for trying to market that to me.

Valentine’s Day, really should be no different than any other day! Really… In my opinion……however it should never be used for the following:

1. To throw a pity party – YOU may be single and bitter, or coupled and bitter, or divorced and bitter. You have have good reason to be terribly, terribly bitter about love. I am not taking that away from you. But Valentine’s Day does not give you carte blanche to feel sorry for yourself. You do not get to sulk. Or be mean to your co-worker because they got a flower delivery. Or be a general pitiful piece of shit all day because you are not getting any flowers.

2. To contact your ex – I urge you NOT to contact any form of your exes on Valentine’s Day. Due to the external pressure I mentioned earlier, it’s heavy pressure. I’m not saying you should never contact your ex, but if you really want to, sleep on it for a whole week and contact them on 21st of February, when all the chocolate is on sale.

3. To go on an emotional bender – You might be feeling lonely, or reflecting on why you do not have romantic love in your life, or possibly even mourning a love that was lost. That is perfectly fine and normal. Do not let it get you down a rabbit hole of catastrophic thinking. You start with IT WOULD OF BEEN REALLY NICE TO GET FLOWERS and before you know it you’re at WHO’S GOING TO BE THERE FOR ME HOLDING MY HAND WHEN I DIE? Come on, now. No need to spiral out of control, indulging in feeling lonely on Valentine’s Day never really leads anywhere productive. Instead, challenge yourself to think more productive thoughts like WHAT ARE SOME THINGS I CAN DO TO BE MORE OPEN TO LOVE IN MY LIFE THIS YEAR? or LET ME REMIND MYSELF WHY THE EX AND I DIDN’T WORK OUT.

4. To test the person you are dating – Valentine’s Day is not a test to see how much the person you’re dating cares about you. There is no report at the end of the night. If there’s something you want to do celebrate, don’t wait for someone else to plan it. The people we date aren’t waiting around all year to make our magical Valentine’s Day fantasies happen.

5. To DEMAND an expensive gift – If the person you’re dating has the funds to buy you an opulent gift, like any of the gifts Sandylashxx mentioned in her last post, and happens to do so from the bottom of his/her heart, then consider yourself EXTREMELY lucky. If the person you are dating does not have the funds to buy you a mini pony wiht a diamond collar, so what? It doesn’t mean they love you any less. Don’t be that person who makes the holiday about all material gain. And please, dear God, don’t use Valentine’s Day as an excuse to push for an engagement ring, unless the time really is right for you two.

6. To internet stalk – Getting on Facebook/Twitter/Google and looking at pictures of your ex(es) and his or her new love is always a bad idea in my opinion… but if this is an activity that you’re not ready to give up, fine. Just abstain for 24 hours.

7. to sign up to an online dating site – PLEASE by all means, feel free to sign up for online dating. But do not do it the week of Valentine’s day. No need to get desperate, looking for a date, any date come February 11th.

Moral of the story: we all need to learn that being alone is NOT  bad thing. It’s a thing that everyone needs to learn to do at one point or another in life. If that doesn’t motivate you, remember that there is no lonlier feeling than spending Valentine’s Day with someone you don’t care for.


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Shopping madness!!!

Hello Pouters!

Well we are exactly 40 days away from Christmas and we all know what this means, busy malls, screaming kids, que’s, parking, a lot more other frustrations.

I know every year people plan to do their christmas shopping as early as they can yet when they look again december is around the corner and time is limited. I always leave my shopping until late and its a big rush and major headache!

So I have decided to give you ladies (and gents) a little do and dont’s list for your shopping experience during the festive season. It’s a fabulous idea that we make a plan for our shopping when it comes to christmas gifts.


1. Make a list: Prepare a list well in advance, consider who you need to buy for and what you are going to buy for each person.

2. Shop at night: Most malls extend their shopping hours, so take advantage of late night shopping.

3. Set a budget: Make sure you have budgeted you don’t want to over spend, and be disappointed in how much you spent.

4. Keep receipts: Be prepared to take items back.

5. Watch your credit card: When paying with your credit card ensure the tellers don’t walk away with your card for safety reasons.


1. Avoid weekends: If you want to avoid bumping shoulders with every other shopper, then go on a week day.

2. Dont limit your choice:  Plan for this in advance by writing a back up gift option on your list. This will save you a lot of time especially if you’re shopping for a large number of people.

3. Dont wrap right away: Check your item thoroughly before you thrown on the fancy wrapping paper. Also remember to remove the price tag and other purchase particulars.

4. Stay safe: If you’re buying online; be sure that the website has SSL technology. You
definitely want your credit card information to stay secure. Further, if you
don’t receive your purchased item, you can contest the charge.

5. Dont shop on an empty stomach: People often go shopping on an empty stomach, which causes them to spend excess money on food and people normally eat more at a restaurant than compared to how hungry they really are, which leads to a waste of money.

So Pouters, take it easy and enjoy shopping for the people you love, stay calm and relax during your shopping.
Hope you all have a pleasant and relaxed christmas shopping experience.




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