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Lady Laws

In honour of Woman’s Day tomorrow…. There are certain things, I believe in life that us girls need to learn in order to be acknowledged as a full on lady, in a true sense of the word. I am calling these the Lady Laws and I believe we need to learn and master these things and you will be on your way to being the best women you can be….

ComplimentTaking a compliment.

“You look absolutely amazing”. Yes, you do. You spent hours doing your hair and makeup (sometimes even weeks when you’ve been training your butt off at the gym) to look exactly how you look right now. Someone has acknowledged it. Embrace the compliement, think of it as a gift of kindess. Do not and I reapeat DO NOT throw a compliment away when one is given to you. Yes, you might be taken aback and flattered but a simple “thank you” with a smile is a great response. Do not point out another weakness in response to this as it ends up looking like you want your own pity party, and only girls have pity parties – not ladies. Be gracious about it though in the same regard and don’t get a big head about it.

Self DefenseHow to defend yourself.

We live in a scary world. Not just a scary country. There is a high chance that 1 in 4 women has a chance of experiencing a violent crime in her lifetime. Studies have shown that it is virtually always better to fight back in situations as women who have done in studies have always eneded up being less injured than those who didn’t. I’m not suggesting a black belt in karate but a good knowledge of how to defend yourself against a potentially nasty situation will only empower you in life.

Breast Cancer CheckLearning to check your body.

One in nine women will get breast cancer at some point in their lives and early diagnosis is vital for a good recovery. This means, it is ideal to check your own boobies once a month. They are your breasts and no one elses. Its really simple and can be done when you are in the bath or shower. You need to be aware of what is normal for you in look and feel, what changes to loook for and report any changes to your doctor without delay and ensure to go for a mamogram once year once you reach the age of 35 or earlier if you have concerns.

Walking AwayWalking Away From Bad Friendships and/or Relationships

There are so many people in the world that can be toxic for you, both platonically and romantically. If you ever feel as though you are trapped, undermined, anxious, in danger or unhappy around certain people, learn the art of letting them go from your life in order for you to be free. Surrounding yourself with a support group of compassionate loving family and friends will help you see yourself for exactly what you’re worth in life. Do not compromise that for anyone. Continue reading

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WHY VALENTINE’S DAY IS NO EXCUSE TO BE BITTER

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Hiya Poutlings

I had an interesting conversation with one of my recently-single friends last night and we got talking about Valentines Day! She was obviously very bitter about it, but then I think/hope I put some of it into perspective for her. Now, this “holiday” has been thrown way out of perspective. It’s a silly holiday, you don’t need to give into the external pressures of it and you also do not need to be super grumpy about it either.

Case in point: I am in a happy relationship – we don’t really do the Valentines day thing that the media portrays, I would much rather have LOVE expressed every day or on any other day, yes, a silly little chocolate/real (not plastic) flower or something never goes a miss even on Valentines day, however, huge elaborate gifts on Valentines day can be OTT. Even, me, in my relationship have received at least 5 emails daily to tell me to send flowers, send my loved one for a massage, silly stupid gifts ideas, etc. I REALLY DO NOT NEED TO SEND MY BOYFRIEND FLOWERS… but thank you for trying to market that to me.

Valentine’s Day, really should be no different than any other day! Really… In my opinion……however it should never be used for the following:

1. To throw a pity party – YOU may be single and bitter, or coupled and bitter, or divorced and bitter. You have have good reason to be terribly, terribly bitter about love. I am not taking that away from you. But Valentine’s Day does not give you carte blanche to feel sorry for yourself. You do not get to sulk. Or be mean to your co-worker because they got a flower delivery. Or be a general pitiful piece of shit all day because you are not getting any flowers.

2. To contact your ex – I urge you NOT to contact any form of your exes on Valentine’s Day. Due to the external pressure I mentioned earlier, it’s heavy pressure. I’m not saying you should never contact your ex, but if you really want to, sleep on it for a whole week and contact them on 21st of February, when all the chocolate is on sale.

3. To go on an emotional bender – You might be feeling lonely, or reflecting on why you do not have romantic love in your life, or possibly even mourning a love that was lost. That is perfectly fine and normal. Do not let it get you down a rabbit hole of catastrophic thinking. You start with IT WOULD OF BEEN REALLY NICE TO GET FLOWERS and before you know it you’re at WHO’S GOING TO BE THERE FOR ME HOLDING MY HAND WHEN I DIE? Come on, now. No need to spiral out of control, indulging in feeling lonely on Valentine’s Day never really leads anywhere productive. Instead, challenge yourself to think more productive thoughts like WHAT ARE SOME THINGS I CAN DO TO BE MORE OPEN TO LOVE IN MY LIFE THIS YEAR? or LET ME REMIND MYSELF WHY THE EX AND I DIDN’T WORK OUT.

4. To test the person you are dating – Valentine’s Day is not a test to see how much the person you’re dating cares about you. There is no report at the end of the night. If there’s something you want to do celebrate, don’t wait for someone else to plan it. The people we date aren’t waiting around all year to make our magical Valentine’s Day fantasies happen.

5. To DEMAND an expensive gift – If the person you’re dating has the funds to buy you an opulent gift, like any of the gifts Sandylashxx mentioned in her last post, and happens to do so from the bottom of his/her heart, then consider yourself EXTREMELY lucky. If the person you are dating does not have the funds to buy you a mini pony wiht a diamond collar, so what? It doesn’t mean they love you any less. Don’t be that person who makes the holiday about all material gain. And please, dear God, don’t use Valentine’s Day as an excuse to push for an engagement ring, unless the time really is right for you two.

6. To internet stalk – Getting on Facebook/Twitter/Google and looking at pictures of your ex(es) and his or her new love is always a bad idea in my opinion… but if this is an activity that you’re not ready to give up, fine. Just abstain for 24 hours.

7. to sign up to an online dating site – PLEASE by all means, feel free to sign up for online dating. But do not do it the week of Valentine’s day. No need to get desperate, looking for a date, any date come February 11th.

Moral of the story: we all need to learn that being alone is NOT  bad thing. It’s a thing that everyone needs to learn to do at one point or another in life. If that doesn’t motivate you, remember that there is no lonlier feeling than spending Valentine’s Day with someone you don’t care for.

*missfitz

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All Scorned Women Could Learn from Liberty Ross

Hiya Poutlings

So, everyone else covered it, and, it was very over rated. The Kirsten Stewart/Rupert Sanders cheating scandal. I thought we didn’t need to, because it was everywhere, IN YOUR FACE everywhere… so we only posted a few times on our Facebook page about it… but no where near as much as anyone else.

However, the one couple I have felt sorry for through this was Rupert Sanders’ wife Liberty and undoubtly, their two children. So that brings me to my post today: Kirsten Stewart could learn a lot from her former friend-turned-love-rival, the beautiful Liberty Ross who has spoken very eloquently on her attitude to life in the past year

“… sometimes, when things seem really bad, you have to be able to see the good and learn from it, and just move forward as graciously as possible.”

Liberty, who is now 32 years old was talking as she was being filmed backstage as she prepared to walk in ALEXANDER WANG’s show at New York Fashion Week last month.

There was no pointed fingers at the press or paparazzi or anyone else, no staring at the floor as Kirsten does, simply, an honest appraisal of how she managed to get out of bed and get on with things in face of a very public humiliation at the hands of the one person who should have her back and she should be able to count on at any time, not just when the going gets tough.

Liberty and her husband, Rupert Sanders, who is 41, were snapped leaving marriage counselling at the weekend, which, whilst being huge in the states, is a step rarely taken by Brits who’d rather have their toenails pulled out than talk about their feelings when in a relationship.

Meanwhile, I do not give a flying fuck whether Robert Pattison and Kristen Stewart are back together, I do hope that Rupert and Liberty iron out their problems – given the fact that they have two kids – be it together or apart but at least for the sanity of their kids, hopefully its not an uncomfortable home environment.

Liberty’s a case book study in how a woman should act in public when dealing with a cheating husband: put on your makeup, your best clothes, hold your head high, your mouth shut and remind him at every turn that he risked throwing it away.

Do people deserve second chances? Yes, in certain cases.

He’s a very lucky man, I’m not sure if I were in the situation I’d give him such a generous second (or is it more than that??) chance.

All he’d have got from me would have been a carefully-aimed Christian Louboutin right in the nuts and an expressive-worded letter in post from a divorce lawyer.

Liberty, is a lady on the hand, and like her, I probably would of forgiven him eventually. The kiss/kafoofle/whateverthefuckhappened with K-Stew was no doubt more sexually satisfying for Rupert than an afternoon in a IVF doctors office toilet with a plastic beaker and some dirty magazines…. but it was also 100 times more humiliating.

What are your thoughts?

I think – GO LIBERTY ROSS!

*missfitzz

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YOU KNOW IT’S FOREVER WHEN……

Remember when I posted my “rules” on a successful relationship? LINK

Well, there is one more sign that he is the perfect man!!!!

When instead of just saying I LOVE YOU… He says…

I LOVE US! I LOVE WHAT WE HAVE AND ARE!

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I’m so BLESSED

MuchLuv
Sandylashxx

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Kris Humphries is demanding money from his ex-fake-wife-K-Klan-Thing

Hi Pouters!

Because being fake-married to Kim Kardashian is a fate worse than the deepest, darkest circles of hell, its understandable that Kris Humphries managed to claw himself out of the pit of the K-Klan and now we can understand that he wants a little compensation for being strung along into a plot for Kim’s very fake reality show – to pay for his therapy bills of course!

 

replica wedding dress anyone to reinact this fairytale wedding so you and your partner can live happily forever after? ...oh wait.

 

He is demanding $7million for an out of court settlement with Kim and claiming that Kim also took his share of the $18million they made off the fake wedding…. That is the money that Kim claims she never made.

“We’re told before they were hitched … Kim and Kris opened a joint account in which they deposited all the money they made from the wedding and other ventures. Our sources say Kris did indeed get money for selling wedding photos and appearing on the Kardashian reality show … but they say all that money went into the joint account and Kris never got any of it. Here’s what’s perplexing. Since it was a joint account, Kris would have as much access to the money as Kim. But sources connected to Kris say he’s never attempted to withdraw any of it. As we reported yesterday … Kris wants millions from Kim as part of the divorce settlement, even though they were together in marriage for only 72 days. Sources close to Kris tell us … he doesn’t even care about the money — all he wants is an annulment.” Source: http://www.tmz.com/2012/03/11/kris-humphries-kim-kardashian-money-divorce/

Just looking at Kris you can see he’s a bit of a dumb-dumb, if all he wants out of this is an annulment then you know his first instinct is going to be to go and do it again with some other celebrity who is famous for doing nothing…

*missfitzz

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